Last updated:
27th June 2023
Thinking of leaving an abusive relationship
If you decide to leave your abuser, it is best if you can plan this carefully.
Sometimes the risk of violence and abuse can increase if your abuser thinks you are about to leave.
The Wokingham Domestic Abuse Service can help you plan how to safely leave the relationship and let you know about other services which can help, for example Citizens Advice and / or a solicitor. Citizens Advice are able to let you know what benefits you may be entitled to and your rights over any property and assets.
Wokingham Council’s Homelessness team can help by advising you on what housing options may be available and what support can be accessed. Find out more on our housing options page.
Although you need to be careful about who you tell about your plans to leave, employers often have a Domestic Abuse Workplace policy which sets out what help and support they are able to provide for you, including often time off to attend necessary appointments and potential changes to your work environment.
If you have children, it is best not to tell them that you are planning to leave, in case they accidentally tell your abuser.
If you can leave in a planned manner, rather than an emergency, try to choose a safe time when you can leave with your children (and pets, if possible), when you know your abuser will be away from the home.
